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Several months ago I decided, at the is-it-too-late age of 61, to step away from the idea of finding that one perfect mate who could satisfy all my dreams, give me everything I needed, and be by my side for the rest of time. In other words, I've abandoned the fairy tale and am opting for honest and open relationships. I'm having a blast. I'm dating...

In her article Why We Should All Be Talking About Sex A Lot More Often, sex educator Kate McCombs interviewed other sex educators to get their take on the importance of talking about sex. Linda Kirkman's response reflects the reasons I think encouraging older women to talk about sex is important: "to normalize talking about sex and sexuality, to re...

Are you addicted to sex? I asked myself this question recently, and, because I spend so much time in a classroom anyways, I decided to take a test to find out. The questions on this test, posed by psychologists and other sex addiction experts, made me wonder if the sex I was engaging in was a compulsive act beyond my control, or whether it was simp...

Have you ever thought that you or someone you know may be addicted to sex? Maybe it's because you or they watch too much pornography ("too much" according to whom, though?) or you or they seem to have problems saying no to an offer of sex when it comes along, even from strangers (slut shaming anyone?) Sex addiction is a common diagnosis for all kin...

Not having sex can suck. Like, really suck. Maybe you're going through a dry spell in your relationship or you're single and short of quality partners. Whatever the reason, forced abstinence isn't fun. Plus, having regular sex is good for your health. It has all sorts of benefits, from increased serotonin and oxytocin levels to better cardiovascula...

We already know that sex is healthy - it reduces pain, gives your heart a boost and makes you feel happier. But aside from those obviously sexy reasons to get it on, there's a whole world of additional health benefits … if you're willing to get a little kinky. Here's the dirty on the little-known healthy side effects of wilder sex. To swallow or no...

Have you ever seen Madonna's nude pictures from the 1985 issue of Playboy If you haven't, go ahead and Google it. In those pictures, you can see that the young Madonna boasted a fit and curvy body, perky breasts ... and a wild hairy bush. Before you say "gross", just remember that au naturel pubic hair was the norm back then. It was considered sexy...

It's normal to feel both exhilarated and nervous at your first swingers' party or orgy. Group sex shatters a lot of our norms and expectations around sex, so it's easy to get lost in thoughts of "how is it going to go?" To make your experience more fun and less worrisome, I've compiled a few basic etiquette rules surrounding group sex that you shou...

We tend to assume that women don't have as much of a desire for sex as men or that female arousal is some kind of eternal mystery that no scientist — let alone the rest of us mere mortals — could ever really decode. But thankfully, none of that is true.  In the actual research, "we don't see the kind of gender differences people assume exist,"...

"The most common sexual concerns of women of all ages include loss of sexual desire, problems with arousal, inability to achieve orgasm, painful intercourse, negative body image, and diminished sexual desirability and attractiveness." Sexual Function in Elderly Women: A Review of Current Literature, archives of National Institutes of Healtfh . We a...

One of the secrets of a better sex life is having more sex. (Practice makes perfect!) Yet, aside from this obvious wisdom, is there anything not sexy that you can do that actually improves your sex life? Sure. Plenty. Here are a few suggestions. Get Therapy Particularly for long-term couples, therapy has plenty of benefits. Talk therapy can help to...

There are those who would have you believe that the secret to a great sex life lies in expensive , complicated contraptions and accessories. Sure, a sex swing or a gold-plated anal plug (yes, they exist) might put some spice in the bedroom. But let's be honest: They're just objects, and while they might play a role in helping you find sexual fulfil...

OK, who's been a naughty, naughty little kinkster? Tsk, tsk ... somebody needs a spanking! But before you dive headlong into a game of slap and tickle, you may want to read our crash course on spanking. Consider it spanking 101. Why Spanking Is Sensual Some people think spanking a lover's a bit odd, or even taboo, but a good spanking in the bedroom...

Undoubtedly, heading out on a cruise is one of the best ways in which to enjoy a vacation. However, one would be lying to his or herself if they were to say that cruising is without its annoyances. Like it or not, there are just some things about heading out on a cruise ship that can get under the skin of even the most veteran of cruisers. If you'v...

Screw Orgasm Shame — You Don't Need to Have Orgasms to Have Good Sex Please, for the love of pleasure everywhere, stop faking orgasms to spare a partners' feelings. Do you really have to orgasm every time you have sex? For the record, while sexual culture overwhelming focuses on penis-in-vagina (PIV) intercourse, there's a whole world of pleasure t...

  Before going to sex parties myself, I envisioned them to be filled with some strange subset of women who were ridiculously horny and obviously somehow damaged. Because what self-respecting woman would agree to go to a sex party, right? Clearly, I had issues. My perspective was based on a combination of shit my mum drilled into my head about ...

Some say money is the root of all evil; I say it's infidelity. Cheating on your significant other is the worst thing you can do to them in my book. It's dishonest, sneaky, disloyal, and just plain selfish. If you are a frequent reader of my writing, you may be asking right now, " Wait a second, don't you swing?" Yes, I am in the swinging lifestyle,...

Adolescence is a traditionally tricky minefield to navigate for parents. Having "the talk" is the easy part compared to watching your precious little baby blossom into a sexually active teenager. There is no absolute right way to discuss sex, but there are a whole slew of wrong ways that can damage a young person's ability to grow into a sexually h...

Last fall I had dinner with someone who, up until that point, I had only known online. We swapped details and I noticed how her face lit up when she spoke of her partner. She was clearly madly in love and blissfully happy. A few minutes later, as she was talking about an upcoming trip to visit another partner, I felt an urge to ask how that worked ...

Every gal would like to have her cake and eat it too, but is that really possible within the confines of a committed relationship? Some couples think so and, as a result, appear to live quite happily with each other while still having sex with other people. While hard-and-fast statistics about open relationships are hard to come by, some experts es...