Get W.E.T Blog

Are you a woman? Do you have sex? If you answered "yes" to these two questions, then someone, somewhere, thinks you are a slut . According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a slut is "a slovenly or promiscuous ." Of course, it's a derogatory word. It's meant to be an insult: "You're a woman who's having lots of sex! You're dirty and a terrible pers...

I consider myself very lucky. At the other end of a phone line, whenever I want or need, is my Grandmother; all 95 years and counting of her. Full of spunk and sass, she's the type that will help wheel people 20 years younger than her down to the dinner hall of their home and, if the need arises, she'll have also shucked the corn they have for dinn...

Hand jobs get such a bad rap. In the last week alone, I heard them referred to as "immature" by Amy Schumer, saw them called "sad," and was finally greeted on Facebook by this quote: " Hand jobs are like Catcher in the Rye, if you're 15, they are the best thing ever. After that, you have had better, so what's the point?" -Sean Carswell Well, clearl...

I can vividly remember a conversation with a girlfriend of mine when I lived in California. Back then, she was approaching 40, while I was 35 and a stay-at-home mom with two small children under two years old. This friend told me that she and her husband were trying to have sex 100 days in a row. My first thought: That's not possible! My second tho...

When I first sat down with him, it was quite possibly the most nervous I had ever been upon entering a scene. I thought I was over-reacting at first; this guy only wanted me to spank him, right? However, It would be my first time dominating anyone. What I learned is that you can never be too careful when you're working with someone. You should alwa...

There are loads of statistics about how women tend not to ask for what they want and need. Not in academic settings, not in the boardroom and, although no one's talking about it, we know this one applies in the bedroom too. Actually, to be fair, research suggests that the vast majority of people undercommunicate when it comes to sex, even in long-t...

You've probably heard the term sex positive, but do you know what it means? In recent years, it has shifted from its feminist roots and has been used to refer to people who enjoy sex and are open to all forms of sexual expression. But, as with many aspects of sex and sexuality, it's actually a lot more complicated than that. Sure, embracing your (a...

  Sex toys may not be the perfect gift for everyone on your list, but wouldn't it be awesome if they were? I mean, when you think of all the junk that circulates and is re-gifted ( ohhhh … thanks for … this) every year, wouldn't it be awesome if we lived in a world where we could all hand out amazing orgasms to everyone we loved like holiday c...

One typical way of fighting heteronormativity is to answer the question "When did you decide you were gay/lesbian/bisexual?" with "When did you decide you were straight?" It turns the question on its head and gives the straight person a new perspective from which to evaluate their sexual identity. However, the fact that a straight identity is most ...

According to Brené Brown, PhD and shame researcher, "Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." As a highly sexual, bisexual, and kinkster woman, I have to deal with a lot of shame thrown at me by the media, our patriarchal culture...

We all know that staying in shape keeps us healthy and predicates good sex in a number of ways - you look sexy, you feel happier, etc. But what about toning your body from the inside? As it turns out, women especially have some important sexual muscles they should be flexing if they want a healthy sex life. In 1952, Dr. Arnold Kegel invented a seri...

"Would you like to play Cupid?" read the job post. Completely unqualified, I landed a job co-managing a 10-page section of the Philadelphia Weekly and more than 500 singles. From a cubicle high above Rittenhouse Square, I had a blast fielding snail mail and hard copy photos from a sea of self-declared Tom Cruise wannabes and Sharon Stone look-alike...

Every year, technology gets a little more advanced, bringing us everything from color-changing WiFi enabled light bulbs to self-driving cars. The integration of tech and, well, everything has made life infinitely better and easier - almost irrefutably so. But when it comes to technology and sex, people's opinions are divided. Some say that letting ...

There will be sex with robots. There, I said it. If we're going to talk about the future of sex, we may as well get that out of the way right up front. But while robot sex is certainly a very sensational aspect of what the future of sex might look like, the thing that most people don't realize is that there's so much more to sex tech (yes, it's a t...

Any sex therapist will tell you that the more you know about sex, the better you'll be in bed. If you're sexually misinformed, sex is likely to be less pleasurable for you and your partner.  Below, sex therapists from around the country share the most common misconceptions they've heard about sex. (For even more myths about sex and intimacy, h...

Picture it: You're with a partner, it's late at night and things are getting pretty hot. You're kissing, you're touching, you're sizing each other up for the next move. So you decide to make one: You reach under the bed and pull out ... your favorite sex toy. Now here's where things get interesting. Because while some people (both men and women) wi...

Have you ever wanted a sexy escape from reality, in a place where you can indulge and explore your fantasies in a completely judgement-free zone, with likeminded people? I know, it might sound too good to be true… but I promise you, there's a place where your fantasy really turns to reality. Temptation Resort Spa Cancun promises a one-of-a-kind adu...

Humans are natural exhibitionists (well, to at least some degree) whether it be having sex in a park, or wearing those tight mesh in-set leggings to the gym to show off that bodacious derrière. For most animals, showing off their sexual prowess is a way to display themselves to potential mates, but we participate in sexual acts for far more than ju...

If you have a healthy relationship, swinging can provide numerous benefits when approached properly. It's a consciously adopted lifestyle that requires education, communication, patience , and understanding – qualities required for any successful relationship. Swinging is not for everyone, but for some couples , it's a welcome addition that spices ...

People who have had threesomes love to brag about it more than any other sexual experience. Having more than one partner at a time – especially when they're both pleasing you – is one of the ultimate taboos. But, what's the reality behind this fantasy? I can happily say I've kicked it off my bucket list, and can give you some tips to make sure your...