When I wrote my semi-ranty piece about Hotwife Training earlier this year, I had completely underestimated the earnest desire of men who wanted to get their partners interested in Hotwifing. I initially assumed these husbands were solely motivated by their own sexual proclivities but as I discovered more about the lifestyle, I've come to understand that many men are solely spurred on by the excitement of watching their partner explore her sexuality. In my book, that earns a huge thumbs up.

How to Train a Hotwife
I personally never needed 'training' so you could call me a Natural Born Hotwife, but I still needed a little encouragement here and there. Based on our experience in the lifestyle overall, I think I've got a fair idea of what makes a woman want to experience the pleasure of other men.
With that in mind, I've listed some points on how to train a Hotwife. Before I go on though, I should mention that these points are more useful for those seeking a Stag/Vixen dynamic of Hotwifing, as opposed to Cuckolding. The latter deserves a separate post which I'll look at writing some time. Cucks-to-be may wish to visit The Cuckold Consultant in the meantime.

Also, each point just about needs its own post so if you find this overview useful, please let me know and I'll extrapolate!

What is your motivation?
It's important to ask yourself why you want to see your wife have sex with other men. If your reason has anything to do with feelings of sexual inadequacy and you don't want to become a cuckold, then I urge you to address those personal issues before entertaining Hotwifing. I would also to some extent suggest the same thing if you are experiencing other sexual issues with your partner, be it mismatched sex drives or lack of sexual intimacy. If however your desire is to see another man pleasure your wife, and her deriving pleasure from that, then Hotwifing will be a very fulfilling lifestyle for both of you (both being the operative word).

What are her views on sex?
There is no point dropping the Hotwife bomb on your wife if your current sex life is conservative. Whether through religious indoctrination or cultural upbringing, if your wife has strong traditional views on sex and marriage, it will be an uphill battle. The only proverbial light at the end of the tunnel is if she is naturally horny and loves sex. No ancient book can suppress a strong sex drive forever! If you are fairly confident that your wife would enjoy exploring the pleasure of one or more extra cocks then it's something you can work with. If not, I would start closer to home and spice up your one-on-one sex life first.

Nurture the sex goddess within
I've personally had many phases of feeling unsexy and dowdy and it's taken time to lure the sex goddess out to play. For many women, it's entirely normal to feel negative about themselves sexually, particularly if motherhood and/or work life saps every last shred of energy from them. Female sexuality easily gets shelved so if you want your wife to feel sexy, you need to help her find time to feel sexy. Make sure she has that one hour during the weekend to enjoy herself, whether that's through running her a bath or setting up a reading area for her to sit down with some good music and wine, and perhaps a naughty novel. Don't pressure her to have sex during this time. It's all about her. If the sex goddess comes out and wants to play with you (and your hot Brazilian neighbour), then that's a bonus.

Sell the adventure
The tricky part of Hotwife Training is convincing your wife why she should get on board. What's in it for her? Think of all the reasons why your partner may want to have sex with another man. Some Hotwives simply love the thrill of the hunt with new prey. Others love being watched by their husbands. Most women want to explore sexually to some extent (how else did 50 Shades sell so well?) so all you need to do is find out how you can enhance the desire to explore. If your partner is turned on by other men looking at her then tell her you love that she gets attention from other men. If she enjoys sexy lingerie then buy her a new set and when she tries it on, say that she deserves to be admired by more than just you. This just might lead to naughty photo sharing on Twitter, and then some.

Facilitate but let her take charge
If your partner starts to show interest in Hotwifing then it's indeed a positive step but don't get carried away yet. Before you start arranging a team of BBC to service your curious wife, let her know that she's fully in control. It's up to her how she wants to pursue things and with whom. If all she wants to do is go to a busy bar and be left alone for other men to approach her, then work with that. Strange men flirting with her may be the impetus to her wanting to take things further. All your wife needs to know is that you're supportive of her fulfilling her desires, as tame as they may be initially, and that you'll be her wingman no matter what.

Reassure your wife that you love her
At some point your partner may wonder why you're so eager for her to sleep with other men. She may interpret your enthusiasm as relief that she'll be having sex elsewhere and you no longer need to be physical with her. Alternatively, she may suspect that you're setting yourself up to have your own guilt-free tryst with other women. To avoid these nasty snags in your mission to train a Hotwife, nip these at the bud. Before you venture into any Hotwifing activity, reassure her that this journey is about her sexual exploration and not yours. Explain that her exploration is a deeply exciting sexual experience for you too. Let her know that she's cherished and loved every step of the way and ensure that you maintain your own sexual relationship too.

Be patient. Hotwives don't emerge overnight.
As much as you may want a magical potion that drives your wife insane with lust for other men, there is no such thing. You need to remind yourself that the best outcome will arise from a gradual introduction to the lifestyle. A booze-feulled night with your partner banged senseless by a group of anonymous men may lead to feelings of guilt and self-loathing for days or weeks afterwards. If she harboured some mistrust of the lifestyle in the first place, then it's especially vital that her experiences are all positive. Your goal is to sow the seed successfully first and be patient enough to reap the big rewards later.

SOURCE: sharedwife.com​